21 Signs of Emotional Abuse in Relationship/Marriages

Emotional/Psychological abuse is as common as the physical abuse but it is often neglected because there is usually no sign of physical harm done. 

Psych Central says, psychological abuse occurs when a person in the relationship tries to control information available to another person with intent to manipulate that person’s sense of reality or their view of what is acceptable and unacceptable. Psychological abuse often contains strong emotionally manipulative content and threats designed to force the victim to comply with the abuser’s wishes.
A common form of emotional abuse is “I love you, but…” That may sound nice at first, yet it is both a disguised criticism and a threat. It indicates, “I love you now, but if you don’t stop this or that, my love will be taken away.” It is a constant jab that slowly strips away your self-esteem. Abusers get a lot of reinforcement out of using the word “love” as it seems to become a magic word to control you.
 

Pregnant Woman Pours Hot water on Neighbour for seeing her Nakedness

A Pregnant woman in Enugu, Mrs Chintua has taken it upon herself to punish the offender. Mrs Mercy Chintua has been arrested for pouring hot water on a neighbour. Mrs Chintua claimed the neighbour, Emmanuel Anyebe was peeping at her while she was bathing.
According to the punchnews, the incident happened on February 23 at Akwuke, Awkunanaw in Enugu State, where Chintua resides with her husband and where she poured hot water on the victim, Anyebe.
It was gathered that Anyebe was about to take his own bath when Chintua poured the hot water on him.
The victim was said to have sustained severe injuries as a result of the incident, and was taken to a hospital.

In her account to the police, Chintua said she took the action to punish Anyebe who saw her nakedness after peeping at her in the bathroom.
She said, “On that fateful day, as I was taking my bath, Anyebe peeped at on me while trying to gain access into the bathroom, and in the process, saw my nakedness.”
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Mo Ibrahim Prize: Outgoing Namibian President, Pohamba wins the $5million Prize

The outgoing Namibian President Hifikepunye Pohamba has won the most valuable award in Africa and the world, the Mo Ibrahim prize for African leadership.

Mr Pohamba, 79, was named recipient of the 2014 Ibrahim Prize for Achievement in African Leadership at a ceremony in Nairobi, Kenya.

The $5million prize has gone unclaimed for 4years due to the inability of African leaders to meet with the standards. This is the fourth time the price is being awarded since 2007.
According to BBC, Mr Pohamba, a former rebel who fought for his country's independence, has served two terms as Namibian president. He was first elected in 2004, and again in 2009.  continue to see....

LOVESTORY: 107Years Old Man Weds 95Years Old Woman after living together for 70Years

HmmmmmTrue Love. So this 107years old man and his 95 year old woman decided to take their marital vows after living together for 70 years as husband and wife.
Elder Dikam Garba Dabo’ok and MrsKa’a Nafung had their wedding in the very ceremonial way, of white gown with bridal train and the man suited up. The couple came in separate cars, walked down the aisle as is synonymous with recent weddings. The wedding ceremony took place at the Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN), Chizu village in Bwai, Mangu Local Government area, Plateau state.

The couple also took their vows, had photo session after the church service and had a proper reception.

Read part-details as was reported in the Nations newspaper,

They happily took the oath that they would love themselves until death do them apart. They also vowed not to allow a third party in their marital life. They signed the marriage certificate after the service and marched out of the church dancing to the admiration of their guests.
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ISIS Group threatens to Kill Twitter Founder Jack Dorsey and Others

 
“Your virtual war on us will cause a real war on you,” the post reads. “We told you from the beginning it’s not your war, but you didn’t get it and kept closing our accounts on Twitter, but we always come back.”

This is part of the translation of the Arabic post above, which was referred to co-twitter founder Jack Dorsey.

The message was sent to him by a group claimed to be affiliated with ISIS, they made this threat to Jack and other twitter employees for shutting down twitter accounts that promote the ISIS group.
Post made by the group said,it would "silence Dorsey's breath," the "necks" of Twitter employees have "become an official target to ISIS soldiers and supporters."

Photos: Boko haram Beheads two Spies in Recent Videos

 
The resemblance between ISIS and Boko haram should not be overlooked, they are now beheading.

Yesterday, Boko Haram  released a video on twitter which shows the beheading of two men they accused of being spies for the Nigerian police. The two men, identified as Dawoud Muhammad & Muhammad Awlu, were led by Boko Haram militants to a forest where they were made to kneel and confess their 'crimes' to the camera. 

In his confession, Muhammad (right) said he was a farmer from Baga and that he'd been approached by a police officer who offered him money in exchange for infiltrating Boko Haram.

'We went to see a man from Mijka and a police officer that was with him. The officer gave me 5,000 Naira' Muhammad tells the camera.

He said their mission was to spy on Boko Haram, and in exchange, he'd get 'a lot of money and will never go back to being a farmer again'.

After the confessions, the militants beheaded both men and placed their severed heads on their chest.
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Out of Ideas: 101 things you should Know about me.

Hello lovelies, How are you doing?

So the writing you about to read is about the most boring thing you will ever read but don't stop! Please continue(begging) Thank you.

I woke up this morning at about 4:30am fighting myself over what to write that's apart from the news. So finally I  asked my colleague and he said "write about yourself". And I said why should I do that. He said, "have you ever written about yourself", I replied with "a no". He said do it then. Though I decided to write this but in my heart I feel there is nothing interesting to write. But you don't know my full name so I will start from there.

I am a geeky younglady named Onyinyechukwuka Blessing Okeke, but if you ever call me Blessing I will most definitely kill you, I don't like the name.  I am from Anambra state somewhere in Amichi- Nnewi-south, I love my Igbo language, I will speak it anywhere, anyday, nwa-afo kam bu (I am a daughter of the soil). Though was born in Lagos but I don't speak nor understand Yoruba that does not mean you can insult me in Yoruba ooo ehh. Despite been born in Lagos I have schooled and stayed out of Lagos a lot longer. I attended the federal Government Girls' College Onitsha and the University of Benin where I studied Mass communication.
Ngwa please keep reading......

Evil Act! Step-Mum Ties and Locks Up 2 years old girl for soiling herself

The evil that women do. It is sad that a mother could do this to another child. This is 2years old Lovelyn Williams tied and tapped like a prisoner.  Read her story as published in the NigerianTribune,

Looking at the picture of two-year-old Lovelyn William will elicit tears from the heart of any human being. Naked, with her mouth tapered, hands tied backwards and legs tied together, she lay on the floor of a room at Itori in Ogun State. 
It was her stepmother, 28-year-old Christiana Faturoti, who allegedly threw her there as a punishment because she soiled herself. After putting the child in the room, she padlocked it and left for her workplace. Continue reading....

Releasing Chibok girls information will damage Ties With Nigeria-UK

The British government may have important details concerning the whereabouts of the kidnapped girls from Chibok in Borno state last April. But the British government says that divulging such information  will damage its relationship with Nigeria and other allies.

According to the punch news, this revelation came after a UK-based group, Security in Africa, through its founder, Ben Oguntala, wrote the British Ministry of Defence to request for information on the Chibok girls.

“The information was sent on January 30 this year and the UK government has 20 days to comply. They do have a defence of national security and that would prevent them from disclosing the information. Let’s hope they don’t. If they rely on national security defence, we can raise the matter with the Information Commissioner’s office to determine if their claim of national security is reasonable,” Oguntala told our correspondent while requesting for the information.

Word for Today: When you dont Feel Like Praying

Alas! it is a new month, sorry I am Just saying happy new month to you  but I hope you understand. Happy New Month.

Sometimes you wake up in the morning and you don't feel like praying, I know that feeling because I felt same this morning. In a way , I was upset about expectations that I had that didn't come through, so I thought why pray.
So I got into the car and the morning sermon hit me. We always listen to Inspiration fm every morning, and Bishop Mike Okonkwo was on at about 5:30am. His first words are "we need to pray often, pray without ceasing". He talked some more, then he prayed. Continue...................
 

24 Things To Always Remember

Source: Inspirationstories
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Your presence is a present to the world.
You are unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be.
Take the days just one at a time.

Count your blessings, not your troubles.
You will make it through whatever comes along.
Within you are so many answers.
Understand, have courage, be strong.

Do not put limits on yourself.
So many dreams are waiting to be realized.
Decisions are too important to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal and you prize.
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In Pictures: Anti-Buhari protesters In Chatham House, London

There were also anti-Buhari protesters at the Chatham house to protest against the APC presidential candidate. see more photos below...

Nigeria's Transition: Buhari's speech at the Chatham House

Finally the Chatham speech. It is a long one, the beginning is a bit of history and the election in the eye of the world. When you go way down, from where Nigeria is mentioned as been in the 4th republic the main story starts there. I highlighted some parts to help your reading. Below is the Speech...

Permit me to start by thanking Chatham House for the invitation to talk about this important topic at this crucial time. When speaking about Nigeria overseas, I normally prefer to be my country’s public relations and marketing officer, extolling her virtues and hoping to attract investments and tourists. But as we all know, Nigeria is now battling with many challenges, and if I refer to them, I do so only to impress on our friends in the United Kingdom that we are quite aware of our shortcomings and are doing our best to address them.

The 2015 general election in Nigeria is generating a lot of interests within and outside the country. This is understandable. Nigeria, Africa’s most populous country and largest economy, is at a defining moment, a moment that has great implications beyond the democratic project and beyond the borders of my dear country.

So let me say upfront that the global interest in Nigeria’s landmark election is not misplaced at all and indeed should be commended; for this is an election that has serious import for the world. I urge the international community to continue to focus on Nigeria at this very critical moment. Given increasing global linkages, it is in our collective interests that the postponed elections should hold on the rescheduled dates; that they should be free and fair; that their outcomes should be respected by all parties; and that any form of extension, under whichever guise, is unconstitutional and will not be tolerated. Continue.....

Why Siblings Fight(and Why we All Fight Like Siblings)

Remember that moment when you fight with your siblings and then you both start crying blaming each other for being wrong. Dr Kelly in this article tell us why we fight like siblings and what we are competing for. Enjoy it...

Siblings fight because they assume love is a limited resource. They assume they have to compete for caring. In other words, siblings are just like the rest of us.
I was brutal to my siblings.

I beat up on my little brother’s shoulder and I beat up on my little sister’s heart. When we were all grown and had gone our separate ways, I realized what I’d done, and I started to beat up on myself. I felt guilty about being a bully and sad about the lost opportunity to be their friend.

Even after they accepted my apology, I couldn’t forgive myself.
So, instead, I decided to redeem it. By cultivating a sense of companionship amongst my own children. It seemed simple enough. But encouraging mutuality and tenderness between siblings is way easier said than done. Siblings swing quickly upon a pendulum from caring for each other to competing with each other.

What are they constantly competing for?
Love.

They assume it’s a limited resource.

Opinion: Another Boy with no Shoes.

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When I sat down close to him I knew he was just boy, just like many others I have seen en-route my journey home.
When I got into the car, I could tell he was looking at me and I turned to stare at him but he was looking downwards timidly.  As is typical of me,  I like to poke nose into matters wey no concern me.
So I thought of engaging him, I asked him for the wrestling cds he was holding so I could look at the cover pack. I began to ask him the names of the wrestlers on the cover page, he answered them accurately. Well, I can't remember all the names but he mentioned a "Hawk or Shawn", I suppose. After the wrestling friendliness, I asked him my first question.
Do you prefer what you are doing? I asked, he ignored me stared downwards and I asked my question again, Do you prefer what you are doing?
No, he answered.
I asked him a second question, who do you stay with here in Lagos? 
My Uncle, He said.

 I could see the pain in his face as his fair skin turned red in colour, he couldn't look at me so that I don't see that which is in his eyes. We took the questions bit by bit in my local dialect(Igbo) his English was very poor.
The boy was barely 14years old and seemed very acquainted with Lagos which means he has been around for a year or more.

American Missionary kidnapped in Kogi State, Kidnappers demand 60 million Naira

 

Phyllis Sortor

Phyllis Sortor, an American missionary has being kidnapped from her work place in Kogi state.

Rev. Phyllis works with the Free Methodist Church at Hope Academy a school in Emiworo village in Kogi state. She was kidnapped on Monday morning by 10:00am in the school premises amidst Sporadic shootings by the gang to scare away staff and children.

The Kogi State Police PR officer Sola Adebayo, said the kidnap was well-planned, disclosing that the kidnappers escaped with their target by scaling the fence of the school, the same route through which they entered the premises.

The Kidnappers are said to be demanding a ransom of 60 million Naira ($301,500).

Nigerian Woman and Activist Wins Japanese Peace Prize Worth $170,000

A Nigerian woman, Esther Ibanga, who has campaigned against Islamist extremists Boko Haram was on Tuesday awarded a Japanese peace prize worth $170 000.
Esther Ibanga, a pastor and activist in Nigeria, has kept up a vocal protest against the kidnappings that Boko Haram has made almost routine, the Niwano Peace Foundation said.

Today's Inspiration: Live, Live and Live

Live Life like today is all you have.
Onyinnye
There are only two ways to live your life.
One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle.
- Albert Einstein

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
It's about learning how to dance in the rain.
- Vivian Greene

Powerful Dreams Inspire Powerful Action.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Always be a first-rate version of yourself,
instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.
- Judy Garland

Play with life,
laugh with life,
dance lightly with life,
and smile at the riddles of life,
knowing that life's only true lessons are writ small in the margin.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.
- Raymond Lindquist

Don't Take Anything Personally.
Nothing others do is because of you.
- Miguel Angel Ruiz (don Miguel Ruiz)

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Another Bomb blast in kano state.Pictures

Another bomb blast today in kano state. This happened, this afternoon at the Karota motorpark in Kofa-Nassarawa in Kano state. many people were killed and body parts all over the place. See more pics below, but its not nice ooo....

3 British Girls Leave Home to Join ISIS in Syria.

A week ago three British school girls packed their bags and left hom to join ISIS group. The three teenage girls named Kadiza Sultana, 16, Shamima Begum, 15, and Amira Abase, 15, are three friends from East London’s Bethnal Green left their by 8:00am local time, to board a Turkish flight. The girls are suspected to be enroute Syria to join ISIL.

Reports says "British Jihad Brides" are being groomed on line , being brainwashed on Twitter and are asked to contact the Islamic state through a programme called Surespot.

According to dailymail,
The app – run by privacy and drug legalisation campaigners in Colorado – is designed so messages are totally encrypted and cannot be intercepted by authorities.
When messages are deleted by the IS member, they automatically also erase from the phones used by the British teenagers so no trace of the incriminating conversation is left. 
Surespot’s owners, who have made an estimated £140,000 in revenue since it launched in 2013, insist it is protecting an ‘essential liberty’ and has no responsibility to stand in the way of IS. Continue to read more....